Have you ever met the man who believes he is at the top of the social hierarchy and exudes an Alpha vibe but crumbles in the presence of a true alpha?
He is highly confident about himself until the “Lion” walks in. That’s a Gamma male.
The Gamma male believes he’s superior and belongs next to the Alphas and Beta in society.
He thinks everything the Top 1% have should be at his disposal too, be it confidence, friends, money or respect.
This type of thinking comes across as hypocritical because he runs away when faced with a challenge that Alphas and Betas face on a regular basis.
Alphas and Betas dominate the socio-sexual hierarchy, not because they’re dominant by nature, but because they’re competent and competence is where the Gamma male fails.
The Gamma male has mind-blowing confidence, but isn’t competent enough to do anything valuable in the world of men.
In the social hierarchy of men, he sits in the fourth position, and it goes like this:
- Alpha male
- Beta male
- Delta male
- Gamma male
- Omega male
- Zeta male
While Sigma Males also exist, they tend to stand outside of the hierarchy.
As you can see in this infographic, the Gamma male is what the world calls a “regular man”. The Gamma male personality has been a topic of intrigue, most men want to become an Alpha.
Now, here’s what we’re going to discuss in this blog:
- What is a Gamma Male?
- What traits actually define a Gamma male?
- What are the Pros and Cons of being one?
- How do you lead your life if you’re a Gamma male personality?
This article will answer all of these questions and help you determine your place within the social hierarchy.
If you’re a Gamma male, don’t worry because we’ll help you become an Alpha male. You’re at MenVerve, pal. We got you.
Let’s go!
What is a Gamma Male?
The Gamma male is an introverted and sensitive individual who desires authority but wants to avoid being judged or questioned.
He is not competitive or motivated to reach the top but still wants to be recognized for his value and influence without putting in the work.
He believes he ‘deserves’ everything even if he doesn’t put in the equal effort to achieve things.
He’s the kind of guy who’ll sit there and complain about how the Top 1% make all the money but won’t use his time and effort to outcompete them.
Instead, he’ll use his time and effort to binge-watch the latest Netflix series.
To put it simply, he’s the consumer, not the producer like Alphas and Betas.
But it’s not all bad.
Although he doesn’t contribute much to society, he often brings plenty of ideas to the table to make things better.
Since he mostly remains inactive and only contemplates what others could have done better, he often stays where he is.
This makes it harder for him to climb the hierarchy.
Visualize a Gamma male like the dude watching a soccer game and shouting at the goalkeeper to jump higher to save a goal.
Even though he hasn’t set foot on the field ever, he thinks he has the right answer to how something can be done.
While this behavior seems impressive to those who just met him, sooner or later, people find out that he’s putting on a show, trying to be dominant when he isn’t.
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Do Gamma Males Matter In Society?
The Gamma male personality may not be seen as significant compared to other men in the socio sexual hierarchy.
However, his value systems cannot be completely disregarded.
Even though he often adopts a herd mentality and wants to fit in with those around him, he does bring some value to the table.
He may struggle to sustain himself in white-collar jobs and may be limited to blue-collar positions only because he is ambition-less.
Like mentioned earlier, he wants everything because he ‘deserves’ it all.
He often desires to earn more money but doesn’t want to put in the necessary work to achieve it.
You often see a Gamma male personality under the supervision of Alphas and Betas, contributing to the industry but not standing out.
In today’s society, friendships are based on perceived value.
Although a Gamma male can be trusted for his loyalty, he may not be respected more than he deserves as a human being.
His limited thought process and inability to handle significant responsibilities render him a crippled man.
Since a crippled man isn’t a value-add in the society, the world constantly uses him for its benefit and then rejects him.
Is there a possibility for the Gamma to win?
Yes. Once he transforms his mentality and embraces a growth mindset, he can climb the hierarchy and become an Alpha too.
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Why Do Men Choose to Be Gamma?
It isn’t a conscious choice for men to adopt a Gamma male personality.
Many may lack the confidence and purpose of an Alpha and feel that remaining a Gamma male is their only option to fit in.
These are men who focus more on likability and thus sacrifice their principles and values and often agree with everybody to be “nice.”
While this behavior may be linked to their childhood, they never even try to change it.
They’re fine being at the near bottom of the hierarchy than to put the effort to climb.
While Alphas, Sigmas and Betas have a thirst for power and respect, the Gamma male is either ambition-less or too lazy to work.
Power and respect for a Gamma male personality are not innate traits; they must work long and hard to earn that.
I’ve personally seen Gamma males climb the hierarchy in a time frame of about 3-5 years with dedication.
However, that requires self-discipline and a stoic mindset otherwise long-term success isn’t a possibility.
However, being a Gamma male personality is not just about goals and respect.
They also possess deep emotional values and meaningful relationships. This sounds like a beautiful thing until they’re used.
Women often prefer Gamma males as friends because they are emotionally supportive and caring.
However, these men often end up in the infamous Friendzone because they’re too free, too attentive, and too nice.
In other words, women don’t find the adventure in them that can sexually arouse them.
If you’ve read our blog on Hypergamy, you precisely know what we mean.
Some men often consciously choose to adopt a Gamma male personality because they’re forced by the society to be more sensitive and vulnerable, but this only hurts them in the long run.
This is happening in 2023 as global movements push men towards a more sensitive way of life which, by our prediction, isn’t going to turn out well.
Since Gamma males prioritise emotional connection, relationships, and likability, they often become a doormat that others can walk on.
Traits of a Gamma Male Personality
Spotting a Gamma male personality can be confusing because this personality keeps changing from time to time.
The Gamma male is like a chameleon; he’ll fit in so easily you won’t even recognise him.
As mentioned earlier, he thinks that he is an Alpha or a Beta because he does possess certain qualities but deep down, he’s an entirely different person.
Identifying a gamma male requires you to remember his multiple traits and how he operates in the way.
Truth be told, you might even see two or three distinct personalities popping out of this man.
Here are the traits of a gamma male.
Let us explore traits of a Gamma male personality in a deeper sense so you can understand this man completely.
He’s Scared of Confrontation
If there’s ever a war, the Gamma male will likely be the first to run from the battlefield.
He avoids confrontation with others, fearing being questioned or defeated without reason.
This happens because he starts the fight by taking up the Alpha mode but the second it gets real, his Gamma pops up and he runs.
He may abruptly withdraw when involved in an argument, concerned about the potential consequences of his actions.
While its good that he considers the consequences, it also leads to people losing respect for him.
A Gamma may even prematurely end a fight, believing that he has forgiven his opponent, only to find himself vulnerable to further attacks.
Example: He may start a fight when he feels the opponent is weak, but the minute he’s overpowered; he runs away.
He’s too Sensitive
He tends to be too emotional and sensitive about everything in life, which isn’t as much a strength as it’s portrayed in the modern world.
His emotionally sensitive behavior makes people overlook and undervalue him, even consider him weak, because all he does is cry and complain.
This lack of emotional control also makes him prone to manipulation by other people because like our ancestors rightly said “A man who cannot control his own mind is controlled by others.“
Men do not trust him because they don’t know when he might put down the sword in a battle and women tend to use him as the “Orbiter” or the male bestie because he’s the best emotional partner they can find.
Alphas and Betas do not consider a Gamma male an equal partner or contributor due to his lack of emotional control.
While it hurts to hear this, we as men need to understand that the world doesn’t value our expression of emotion, it values our expression of competence.
That’s why the Top 1% are where they are; they took control of their mind through Stoicism.
Example: He lacks emotional control to such an extent that he may get angry one moment and start crying the next moment.
He’s a Procrastinator Pro
Excessive procrastination is prevalent among Gamma males because they don’t have the drive and ambition of Alpha males.
This leads to increased stress, a backlog of unfinished tasks, and missed deadlines.
This further makes him lose control of his mind and make a serious mistake like yelling at a good friend or even fighting with his partner.
He often has to run to men higher in the hierarchy for help because he can’t handle the pressure.
This is also one of the reasons High-value men don’t tend to respect Gamma males because they don’t see competence in this man, only complaints.
He falls weak in the face of chaos, not because the external circumstances are tough, but because he didn’t work enough on them.
Example: He may delay something because he wants to finish a Netflix series, only to realise later that he doesn’t have anymore time left and now there’s panic.
He’s Passive-Aggressive
He desires to express his emotions, particularly when feeling wronged or overlooked in front of others.
This often leads to passive-aggressive behavior, which damages his reputation.
Since he cannot show his aggression towards someone higher in the hierarchy, he resorts to other ways, even gossip and drama.
People look at him as a childish man who can’t deal with the mature way of life.
A Gamma male is often found talking about others in a negative sense to show himself as a more valuable candidate.
Its the simple logic of “I’ll put that person down so people put me in a higher position”.
He can even put forward extreme sarcasm in conversations to compensate for his lack of dominance.
While he feels confident doing it and people may enjoy it, but if they don’t, he’s often rejected by the group.
Example: He will try to convince others of how weak somebody else is so they perceive him as the strong one. He’ll constantly talk about other people’s mistake so he is perceived as the perfect man.
He’s a Nice Guy
A Gamma male makes significant effort to understand his partner and make every effort to please her but is often unlucky in relationships.
While this is exactly what we call a ‘beautiful soul,’ it doesn’t play out well for him.
He eventually gets cheated on because he’s not competent or adventurous enough, qualifies that women seek because they’re Hypergamous.
He is so unexciting and boring that women often put him in the Friendzone.
He ultimately because the “Orbiter” or male bestfriend of these women hoping to go further one fateful day.
We’ve said over a million times that women seek competence, productive generosity, and excitement and do not always want to be treated with oversharing, kindness, and beauty.
While love and kindness are beautiful qualities and every man should have them, men must also remember that competence, generosity and excitement are the symbols of masculinity.
The Gamma male just doesn’t realise this.
He fails with one, two, three or fifty women and still continues on the same path, hoping to find the “one” someday.
This approach to life often backfires on the Gamma male personality, and he ultimately ends up alone.
Example: He will answer every call or text of every woman hoping at least one woman will be impressed by his niceness.
He’s not Confident
He lacks the confidence to assert himself and his ideas, which makes it extremely difficult for him to effectively lead or influence others.
Alpha males and Sigma males are known to assert themselves like the “Kings of the Room” and that is what makes everybody follow their lead.
The Gamma male can’t do that because he’s afraid of asserting himself or his ideas.
He feels hesitant or insecure when it comes to expressing his opinions and struggles when asked a point-blank question by somebody.
Since a Gamma male wants people to like him, with the fear of rejection, he holds back most of the time.
While this makes people like him initially, he also becomes useless to the group because he never contributes.
Example: He might start a debate and as soon as he starts losing it, he immediately changes the topic to avoid reputation damage.
He Breathes Perfection
A Gamma male personality has soaring ambitions and aspirations but hesitates to put them into action due to the fear of imperfection.
He believes that if his plan does not work flawlessly, there will be no opportunity to correct it.
Unless something is precisely perfect, he’s not even picking it up.
In other words, he’s not very good at adjusting to the situation.
His primary obstacle is his own mindset, which is plagued with excessive thinking and negative anticipation of outcomes.
The Gamma male “thinks” more than he “does,” which is the opposite of Alphas and Sigmas who do more than they think.
This prevents the Gamma from planning and working with a clear mind and he eventually sets up camp at the near-bottom of the hierarchy.
Example: He may write and rewrite something tens of times until he achieves absolute perfection, which significantly wastes his time.
He’s Out of the Circle
You’ll often find him sitting alone in a secluded spot or minding his own business because he doesn’t have anything significant or interesting to contribute to the group.
While Sigma males also prefer solitude, they do so because of their conscious choice, not because of social anxiety.
The Gamma male is socially awkward and anxious about potential questioning.
A Gamma male personality tends to avoid debates, group gatherings, and social events because he cannot interact as well as he’d like to.
He often tries to escape those situations ASAP.
Like mentioned earlier, he’s always the first to run from the battlefield.
Example: He will often turn to his phone or walk away from situations to escape the circle.
He’s got low self-esteem
It’s tough for him to stand by his own principles, values, and opinions because he’s got a low self-esteem.
A Gamma male personality doesn’t have the courage and ability to do what is right because doing the right thing can get him canceled from the social group.
If the right thing is to stop a friend from committing a mistake, he won’t do it because he thinks he’ll lose his friends.
He will let the friend commit the mistake than stop him.
This is what leads to people pushing him out of the group often because they perceive him as a man with no spine.
He ultimately turns into a loner.
Note that he is a loner because of his low self-esteem, but at the same time, he wants to hang out with the group.
These two traits often collide with each other, and he’s left with nothing.
Gamma males tend to have a lot of friends but no special friends that he can turn to in the middle of the night because he’s perceived as weak by them.
Example: He sits away from the group hoping for somebody to notice and call him to join.
He’s Clueless
He avoids thinking about his future goals because he fears he may be lost or unsure of where to go next.
This leads to self-doubt and a lack of motivation for the Gamma male personality.
The worst part here is even if he sets a goal, he never plans to achieve it because he wants all the riches without working.
He often thinks that his life is fine the way it is and that others should learn from him how to lead a satisfied life.
He’s the kind of person to say “Money doesn’t buy happiness,” because let’s face it, he doesn’t have any money, but at the same time, he wants money.
In simpler words, he demotivates others from getting successful because he can’t.
Even though he’s self-aware to this degree, he still wouldn’t want to work and would always find excuses like “I was too busy” or “I’m going through a breakup” to cover up his inadequacies.
Example: He will never plan for his future and will always run with the wind, which also gets him knocked out many times in life.
He’s Not Strong and Fit
If you’ve been following MenVerve for a while, you know how much we stress the fact that men should be fit, but the Gamma male just doesn’t listen.
He doesn’t want to be fit because he believes he’s an absolute 10. That’s peak delusion at work.
His habit of procrastination, combined with his lack of confidence, always keeps in on the couch.
Thanks to the Gamma male, fast-food companies rejoice!
If he’s not fit, he often runs to others to share that and gather some sympathy.
Since we’re in 2023, and people are being accepted as they are, even if unhealthy, he wants that “body positivity” credit.
Like I said earlier, the Gamma male personality wants to be liked, and the only way to be liked is to do what everybody else is doing.
Since most people are unfit, he loves being that, but the minute an Alpha walks in with a six-pack on his body, he either gets jealous or tries to make fun of him in a passive-aggressive manner.
He’ll say something like,”I’m sure that guy is on steroids.“
As a man, it’s his responsibility to be the absolute best he can be, but he won’t do it because it requires too much work.
He’d rather be rejected by 100 high-value women than pick a dumbbell.
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Example: He is the couch potato who wants to binge-watch 10 seasons of his favorite series eating fries, but won’t hit the gym.
He lives Basic and loves Technology
He relies too much on technology as a way to operate in the world.
This also puts him out of the social groups because looking at his phone is more comfortable than talking to people.
While he generally does this to avoid confrontation or questioning
He is also fine living a basic life because he knows that in order to achieve luxury, he has to work incredibly hard, and he’s not ready to do so.
He would rather work his entire life and barely achieve anything than put in the work and become an Alpha.
He justifies his basic way of living by saying “I don’t need much to be happy; I’m a satisfied person.”
The translation of this sentence is “I can’t achieve much because I love my comfort zone”.
Example: He will often tell people how a simple life brings happiness, because he wants to convince people that him not being successful isn’t a curse, but a blessing.
Hobbies of a Gamma Male
Gamma males have a unique way of choosing hobbies. The hobbies might be a bit shallow but they’re fun to begin with.
Let’s explore the hobbies of a Gamma Male.
Gamma males immerse themselves in urban exploration, venturing into hidden or abandoned spaces to uncover forgotten stories.
These ventures allow them to extract narratives from forgotten corners, reflecting their nonconformist spirit.
Through visual and literary mediums, they also try to give life to neglected spaces, capturing the beauty in decay and the history that resides within.
This pursuit embodies their nonconformist identity, showcasing their ability to see potential where others might overlook and their knack for turning the mundane into the extraordinary.
Their curiosity for vibrant patterns and colours resonates in artistic hobbies, where Gamma males immerse themselves in the world of visual expression.
Painting becomes their canvas for creativity, as they try to paint their distinctive viewpoint.
The allure of street art, known for its audacious forms, is likely to captivate their creative senses.
They blend pigments on the canvas, crafting pieces that embody their nonconformist spirit.
Photography becomes a captivating hobby for Gamma males, enabling them to translate their nonconformist identity into visual stories.
Through their lens, they capture the world as they see it, emphasizing their individual viewpoint.
Their photographs not only showcase their unique vision but also reflect their ability to capture the essence of a moment in a way that resonates with others.
Gamma male’s hobbies are an extension of their personality traits and way of life.
They gravitate towards unconventional, expressive, and often artistic pursuits.
This is fantastic if the Gamma male can use them to make money but he uses his talents as ‘hobbies’ instead of a business.
How Does A Gamma Male Dress?
Dressing is a way of expressing themselves in a challengeable way from the society. Sometimes people often overlook the fashion Gamma males carry.
A gamma male’s dressing style isn’t just about clothes; it’s a form of self-expression.
Like mentioned earlier, the Gamma male has a low self-esteem and isn’t respected so he uses his fashion to truly express himself.
The Gamma male’s attire captures the spirit of artistic exploration and challenging the conventional as a way of exuding strength.
Here’s how they dress:
- Unconventional Styles: Gamma males thrive on exploring fashion avenues that others might overlook. Their wardrobe is a canvas for experimental choices, featuring pieces that challenge traditional norms and redefine fashion boundaries.
- Playful Accessories: Accessories become an accessory for their creativity. Gamma males effortlessly blend the unexpected, adorning their outfits with whimsical pins, offbeat belts, and hats that make a statement.
- Bold Patterns and Colours: Gamma male’s wardrobe embraces the vibrancy of patterns and colours that might intimidate others. By mixing patterns and experimenting with colours, they create outfits that get attention.
- Trends and Nonconformity: Gamma males skilfully navigate trends, aligning with those that resonate with their personal taste. Unlike blind trend followers, they adopt trends as an extension of their identity.
- Expressive Footwear: From unique sneakers to unconventional boots, gamma male’s shoe choices reflect their nonconformist edge. You won’t find them with regular shoes; there will always be something special.
- Adaptation of Cultures: Cultural influences find a place in their dressing style, celebrating diversity and broadening their horizons. They like to bring in multiple cultures in their fashion because they want to value diversity.
How are the Relationships of a Gamma Male?
The relationships of a Gamma male are characterized by their introverted nature and preference for more meaningful connections.
Here’s a deeper look at the Gamma Male’s relationship dynamics:
Selective Connections & Conversations
Gamma males value authenticity and depth in their relationships. They’re more inclined to form connections with people who share their interests, values, and ideals.
Their close-knit circle often consists of people they trust and feel a strong connection with. Trust me, they too find good people.
They thrive in one-on-one or small group settings where they can engage in deep and thoughtful conversations.
Gamma males are likely to steer conversations towards meaningful topics rather than engaging in superficial small talk.
Thoughtful & Introverted
In social interactions, Gamma males are observant and tend to think before they speak because they’re afraid of confrontation.
They contribute insights and perspectives that showcase their analytical thinking and reflective nature.
Their introversion means that while they enjoy socializing, they also need ample time alone to recharge.
While some women appreciate this, many women walk away thinking they’re not spending enough time in the relationship.
Absolute Loyalty and Depth
Once they’ve established a strong connection, Gamma males are remarkably loyal and committed. Remarkably.
They invest in nurturing and maintaining these relationships, even if they have a smaller social circle.
Their relationships tend to be marked by emotional depth.
Even if its a monogamous relationship with a woman, a Gamma is invested completely.
While they might not express emotions as openly as some other personality types, their connections are often grounded in a profound understanding of one another.
Hesitance towards Superficiality
They might be uncomfortable with shallow or insincere interactions.
Gamma males value authenticity and may struggle in situations where they feel forced to conform to societal expectations.
The relationships and social interactions of a Gamma male are guided by their introverted and reflective nature.
Their interactions are marked by meaningful conversations, emotional depth, and a desire for genuine connections.
How do Gamma Males Socialise?
A Gamma male’s approach to socializing is often influenced by their introverted nature and preference for more meaningful connections.
While they might not be the most outgoing or seek attention, they contribute thoughtfully to conversations and interactions.
Rather than engaging in large, boisterous gatherings, Gamma males often find comfort in quieter settings where they can engage in deeper discussions and build stronger connections.
Intellectual conversations, shared hobbies, and activities that allow for more meaningful interactions are appealing to them.
In social situations, Gamma males may seem reserved initially, observing the dynamics before actively participating.
However, once they feel comfortable, they open up and contribute insights that reflect their thoughtful and reflective nature.
They tend to form connections based on shared values and interests, valuing genuine connections over superficial interactions.
Unlike more extroverted individuals, Gamma males may feel drained after prolonged socializing and seek moments of solitude to recharge.
This allows them to process their interactions and maintain their emotional balance.
Gamma male’s socializing style combines their introverted tendencies with a genuine desire for deeper connections and meaningful conversations, creating a unique approach.
Pros of Being a Gamma
Embracing a Gamma male personality, while not always celebrated, does come with its share of advantages.
These traits may not align with the conventional alpha male, but they hold their own merit:
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Always have room for improvement: Some gamma males have a genuine thirst for personal growth and this quality ensures that they are never complacent with their current state and are always open to evolving as individuals.
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You can master new skills: Gamma males tend to be open-minded and eager learners. This quality enables them to acquire new skills and knowledge effectively, making them versatile and adaptable in various situations.
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Always have the support of those lower than you: Gamma males often find themselves in a position where they can offer guidance and support to others. They build strong, supportive relationships with those who may look up to them.
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Others will like you: Gamma males are generally approachable and amiable. Their willingness to listen, empathize, and connect with others on a deeper level often earns them the genuine liking and trust of those around them.
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Other Gamma males will respect you: Within the Gamma male community, there exists a mutual respect for individuals who exhibit the characteristics associated with this personality type.
Drawbacks Of Being a Gamma
Despite the many merits of the Gamma male personality, there are certain drawbacks associated with this type that can be rather discouraging. These drawbacks include:
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Lack of self-esteem: Gamma males may struggle with self-doubt and a lack of confidence, hindering their ability to assert themselves in various situations.
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Lack of vision: While they may excel at acquiring knowledge and skills, Gamma males can sometimes lack a clear long-term vision or direction in life, leading to feelings of aimlessness.
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Hopeless romanticism: Gamma males often have a tendency to idealize romantic relationships, which can lead to disappointment when reality doesn’t match their lofty expectations.
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Procrastination: Their inclination towards self-improvement can sometimes manifest as procrastination, as they continuously seek perfection and hesitate to take action until they feel fully prepared.
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Repeated failures: Gamma males may face setbacks along their journey of self-improvement, which can be disheartening. These failures may further erode their self-esteem.
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Weak mindset and body: In their pursuit of personal development, some Gamma males may neglect their physical and mental well-being, resulting in a weakened mindset and health.
Now that you’re aware of both the advantages and drawbacks of adopting a Gamma male personality, you’re better equipped to make an informed decision regarding whether this personality type aligns with your aspirations and characteristics.
Unless you’re planning to remain a Gamma male, I’d recommend reading this: How to be an Alpha Male.
Frequently Asked Questions
Are Gamma Males less successful in relationships?
Usually yes. A Gamma male can often do too much, scare away the partner, or make her life less exciting because he’s too nice. His over-supportive and over-caring nature makes him a perfect husband, but women often cheat on him for being boring.
Is a Gamma Male better than an Alpha Male?
The Alpha is an Alpha for a reason. The Gamma male cannot compete with an Alpha because he stands too low in the socio-sexual hierarchy. However, he still has the potential to climb if he learns and works hard enough to outcompete the Alpha.
Can an Alpha become a Gamma?
Yes. When in a serious relationship, many Alpha men often tilt towards Gamma traits because Gamma is the ideal husband type. In doing so, they step down from their top position and come to an equal level with their partner. However, this harms them in the long run.
Final Thoughts
The misconception that being a Gamma male personality is synonymous with weakness is unfounded. Adapting to different personalities is a dynamic process that can be beneficial.
If the Gamma male takes the correct steps, with knowledge and dedication, he can become an Alpha male too. However, it is essential to have a noble reason for doing so.
In general, it’s critical for men to remain dominant to lead society and protect the people they love.
While reading this, you might recognise some familiar faces or traits in your circle of friends.
If these qualities persist and your friends resist change, it may be time to reconsider your social circle; otherwise, you’ll become one like them.
If you possess these qualities, you must decide whether to embrace them or initiate a transformation.
All the Best, King!
